Tuesday, October 06, 2009

Living together

Calories eaten yesterday: 1301
Fat: 24g (19%)
Carbs: 96g (33%)
Protein: 141g (48%)
Weight this morning: 130.8
Calories burned in exercise today: 190

Went in San Francisco to check my P.O. Box today. Exercise was walking to the train station (30 minutes), and then from my stop into work when I returned (35 minutes).

Tomorrow I hope to get back to the gym again, though I am sore for yesterday's workout. I'll just have to take it easier. I pushed myself pretty hard on Monday. :)

Before I talk about Brad I want to make one thing perfectly clear in case there is any doubt. Brad and I are NOT am item. We are not dating, we are not in love, and we are most certainly NOT having a sexual relationship.

Brad sleeps on a cot on my floor. We do not share a bed. Even though he is divorced he considers himself married to his wife in the eyes on God. He will not consider remarrying unless his wife were to die, and I respect that. I even like it. I know he won't come after me. He is just a good friend. I do not believe in sex before marriage.

Okay, hopefully our living arrangement is clear now.

Brad still doesn't have his stuff out of Nicole's trailer. He's been saying he'll do it "tomorrow" for three straight days now. I fear that it will go past Thursday and then feel sorry for her and give her extra because a few of his items were there longer than he was paid for. :-p

I've also made it clear that my fridge is 1) to small for both of up, and 2) that Brad keeps things for himself that are a serious temptation for me. If we are going to live together in any apartment we need a mini fridge for him to keep the tempting stuff in. Last night I found Colby cheese sitting out on the counter when I got home. I had to resist the temptation to eat it and instead stick it in my fridge. I also found Cheese-Whiz sitting out, uncapped. Brad just does not put things away.

I offered to buy Brad a mini fridge for his use and he can pay me back. Costco doesn't take Discover, but they do take checks, and I have checks from Discover. The fridge Costco has that we need is $150.

He can still keep other stuff in my fridge - his fatty sausages don't pose a temptation to me, for example. The only issue there is finding enough room. The fridge in my apartment is a "junior" size, not a regular full-size fridge.

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the mighty war-khan said...

What about the 1 Thessalonians 5:22?

Pillsbury Dough Girl said...

"Absitain from every form of evil"? What "form of evil" am I doing? Did you even read the entire post where I said we sleep separatly?

the mighty war-khan said...

Ah I see, you're not reading the King James Version (referenced by Strong's Greek Dictionary) which says, "Abstain from all appearance of evil." I may be wrong, but an unmarried man living alone with an unmarried woman may be something to consider in light of this scripture. But don't take my word for it, after all, I am as evil of a believer as you'll find. Sure, we're forgiven, but even Paul knows that...

So in regards to your post that you are sleeping separately, yes, I read it. Unfortunately, that's merely not doing evil, not avoiding the appearance thereof. I wonder if Jesus would have done such?

Here's the link to KJV w/ Strong's Greek Dictionary:


Pillsbury Dough Girl said...

Let me try this again. I don't know where you live, but where I live people share living quarters all the time.

Up until I got my own place 6 years ago I always shared housing arrangements, often with men. It's just the way things are done around here, out of necessity

Do you know what my rent is every month? Keep in mind that I live in a tiny shoebox apartment. I fork out $725 a month - for a shoebox! That's the going rate around here. After I left my last apartment they rerented that (also a studio apartment) for $800.

Everyone who knows Brad and I knows we aren't doing anything. Just about everybody thinks we should live together to cut down on expenses - my family and even the people at church.

I also live in a very bad area. In the last 6 years I have been robbed at gunpoint, had my purse snatched, and had my iPod Touch stolen ($300). My apartment has bars on the back now after another unit was broken into.

Having Brad around probably prevented my apartment from being broken into. A guy was trying to "case" my apartment (a single female is an easy mark), but backed off when Brad came to the door. If the people in the neighborhood think we are an item, all the better.

the mighty war-khan said...

Listen Victoria, I know what you're saying. Actually, I respect what you're saying and I agree with it. I also know the Bay Area housing dilemma, what a nightmare!

None the less, my issue is that no matter what I, you, Brad, church people, your family, the neighborhood and so forth think, it is what God says that matters. He says to, "Abstain from all appearance of evil." What does that mean? Are there gray areas, sure. Are there hard-luck consequences, absolutely. Was this a decision of pure necessity in spite of what the Bible says?

You know, the interesting part about sin, is how easily we justify our feelings, let alone actions. I do it all the time, but thankfully have a church family that corrects me and has me step back a moment to consider what I've gotten or am getting myself into.

Fact --> Faith --> Feeling

The flesh would have you think otherwise.